Throughout my tech career, my female colleagues and I have quietly questioned: What does a career in tech look like after kids? After 40? Lisa Shissler Smith, 51-year-old Engineering Manager at Netflix, sums it up this way: There are places where you don’t have to prove your existence every day. Find those.

By all accounts, we were ready. We had done emergency planning months prior before the election. We’re the type to have go-bags under our bed. So, what made SNOVID so hard to endure?

These Galentine’s Day gifts cut the bullshit, and get right down to it: “Take care of yourself, sister. I want you around for a long time.”